Three steps to making the right decision.

First of all. There's never a wrong one. Here's why. We make decisions based on a multitude of factors. What we're thinking, how we're feeling, how others are influencing us, whether there's a full moon, what we had for tea the night before. It all goes in to a big pot of stuff and we do our best to make sense of it and come up with the right answer for ourselves. And that pot of stuff is specific to a particular moment in time. So it changes minute by minute, day by day, week by week etc. We can only make a choice based on the information we have at that particular time. Our current pot of stuff as it were. (I must get that registered as a sub-brand).

And so this means that whatever decision you make will be the right one for you at that time. Fact. Once we get this, we can start to feel a bit more care free about the choices we make because we know we can't get it wrong.

Here's a three step process to help you make the right decision:

1. Find a quiet spot and consider the choices you have. Put aside any practical issues you have or any influencing worries and feel (not think) which option you're being most drawn to. Which feels better?

2. If you feel a sense of relief (even only slightly) when you're focusing on one particular option, it's likely to be the one you should put your attention on.

3. If you're still really not sure and are feeling confused then you probably need to get a little more information and clarification. Go get that then take a breather, park it and come back to it. Things will seem a lot clearer after some time out.

It can feel scary at first but it just takes a bit of practice and the evidence will speak for itself.